What are some signs that you have a cheating spouse?
September 14th, 2008 by admin
I have a friend…who has been married only for a short time who thinks her husband may be cheating on her…She always asks me what kinds of signs should she look for but I have never been in that situation…What can I tell her to look out for with her husband?
change in behaviour, change in schedule …she should know his schedule with work and what not so if all of a sudden he has a lot of late nights then she should wonder. people calling his cell phone that he seems very private about ..if it was me, i would snoop lol
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:21 pm
when he doesnt spend his free time with her……
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:21 pm
lots of excuses
being home late
but tell her to calm down im sure its not
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:22 pm
The following is a guide to help you determine if your mate is cheating on you. After reading this list you may find there is some area of concern. Do not confront the cheater. This will only cause them to clean up their act and make it more difficult for you to catch them. You may not have enough proof to make your case. I would urge you to seek professional help.
* At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.
* After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.
* Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don't show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc…..)
* Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem "when in doubt check them out".
* Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.
* The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if he/she didn't act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn't be doing the things I do).
* Another sign is "Finances". "If someone wants to play they have to pay" therefore keeping an eye on their monies (i.e. check stubs, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc…) would tell you whether their spending more money than usual.
* Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (e.i. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc…).
* Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.
* You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.
* Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up.
* Many cheaters use cellular telephones to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.
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1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.
2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)
3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.
5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.
6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.
7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.
9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.
13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"
14) He buys himself new underwear.
15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.
17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.
18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.
19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.
21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.
22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.
25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.
29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.
30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.
31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.
32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.
34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger.
35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.
37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.
38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
40) She has a "glow" about her.
41) Atypical erratic behavior.
42) He sneaks out of the house.
43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed
44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.
45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.
46) The telltale signs of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.
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http://www.pimall.com/NAIS/n.spouse.html
http://www.womansdivorce.com/signs-of-cheating.html
August 31st, 2008 at 9:22 pm
if he comes home with lipstick on his collar .. thats a good sign..
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:22 pm
When you feel the need to ask a friend for the signs…that is a sign.
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:22 pm
if he comes home a lot late a night
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:22 pm
idk but thx 4 da 2 pnts
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:22 pm
change in behaviour, change in schedule …she should know his schedule with work and what not so if all of a sudden he has a lot of late nights then she should wonder. people calling his cell phone that he seems very private about ..if it was me, i would snoop lol
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:23 pm
he is always
“at work”
he is jumpppppy like a little leap frog or bunnnnny :DDDDD
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:23 pm
Lipstick on his collar.
His mistresses undies in the glovebox of the car.
New personal hygine habits (e.g. shaving his body hair).
Finding them in bed together………
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:23 pm
shaving when he is “going for a walk”
and also deleting text messages
secrecy
spending alot of time on the phone to an unknown
going out and not saying where they’re going……
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:23 pm
Two possible signs both on either side of the spectrum-a failing interest in sex or a real overcompensation for it. This is what I discovered through my last relationship (with my ex-wife), there may also be a lot of out of character gifts and things of that nature.
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:23 pm
never home
always late
never wants sex always too tired
hardly ever talks
secret phone conversations
It is possible that one of these things could lead to suspicion but more than one have him followed and find out what is going on.
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:24 pm
one…does not usually spends most of his time with her
two…when he doesnt talk about his problems to her
three…does not usually talk to her
four…does not go to her in holidays
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:24 pm
If he is shady at all about his cell phone, phone calls, emails, internet use in general.. If he is hard to get a hold of at times.. If when presented with a question about his whereabouts or anything having to do with cheating, he gets angry rather than being understanding and reassuring..
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:24 pm
feel like he became a stranger. your friend should talk to her husband. couples aren’t suppose to keep each others secrets from each other. if they do, i feel sorry for your friend. tell someone to spy on her husband, bad suggestion that i’m giving, but your friend doesn’t trust your husband or she knows that her husband is up to something, ask friends of her husband, may have a clue
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:25 pm
Catching him in the act.
If you start telling her signs that he is cheating then she is only going to get paranoid about everything he is doing.
My partner has gone days where he hasn't wanted sex. Apparently thats a sign - but he was just extremely tired. There are some nights when he is later than others, but there is always a reason.
If she thinks he is, she should keep an eye out, but she shouldn't compare her husbands behaviour to that of another.
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:26 pm
well i may be young but this happened to my aunt she read all the girl contacts on his phone or read his txt messages and all u have to do if you u feel close enough to him than ask him to tell you the truth this might not be helpful but im trying sorry
lwt me no if this helps
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:26 pm
Goes away for long periods of time.
Can’t look you in the eyes.
Possibility of lost intimacy, though doubtful.
Defensive.
Hides cell phone calls or erases things along on myspace, cellphone, ect.
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:27 pm
tell her he turns his phone off are will not answer it.he say he at places he doesn,t go.working late, he going out with the boys,he going to mother house are sister are brother he wants them to cover for him oh yes it could be a friend he says he is going over to visit.they start making excuses start neglecting chores around the house normally a man would take care of.talking on the phone to people you don,t know he just met.sneaking phone calls in saying he is talking to mom (A WOMAN HAS A GUT FEELING SHE KNOWS WHEN HER MATE CHEATS SHE CAN FEEL IT THATS WAY GOD MADE HER.) YOU HAVE TO PAY ATTENTION TO HAVE THAT GUT FEELING. SOMETHING WILL SPARK YOUR INTEREST THAT YOUR MATE HAS CHANGED IN SOME WAY.
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:28 pm
Tell her the most obvious sign that somethings wrong is the fact that she even suspects him. The things is, that signs dnt mean anything by themselves n need evidence to form truths. Either he is cheating or your friend suffers from trust issues - both being disastorous to a relationships survival.
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:30 pm
well if he is always out and says he is staying at work late,Doesn’t want to have sex with her,always insults her.There is a lot of ways to see if he is cheating but maybe she should check his cell phone and see if she notices any unusual numbers
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:34 pm
Love Miss Scarlet's answer!
In my experience, picking a fight just so he can go storming off somewhere you can't reach him.
Unfortunately, you can never know for sure that someone is NOT cheating; you can only confirm that he is. That's why the only healthy option for a relationship is to trust or to cut loose.
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August 31st, 2008 at 9:40 pm
Your friends intuition may be reliable in the absence of any real evidence, but if your friend finds one or two “things” that suggest he is having an affair, he likely is. Then your friend probably won’t be able to stop herself from accusing him. She may get the denials, where he will lie to her face hoping she is gullible enough to believe him. Sister, I don’t know anyone’s relationship that has survived infidelity in the long term - she may never trust him again so better to move on as life is too short.
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I’m a smart girl with bad judgement in men
August 31st, 2008 at 9:42 pm
If she thinks it and is asking you what to look for 9 times out of 10 they are cheating. If her instinct is that strong it is probably true.
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August 31st, 2008 at 10:28 pm
when he spends to much time with verry few friends, or in the office.
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September 3rd, 2008 at 9:34 am
look for women having sex with him–thats a sure sign.
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it’s only “cheating” if you are being deprived. if you’re still getting it, its “sharing”.