what kind of husband has an affair, without no signs of guilt, there were no warning signs in our marriage.?
Our sex life I thought was great. we were happy never really argued. why would he cheat and jeopardize everything we had. he says it was just a game, some game uhu
What kind? A HUMAN one, I expect.
Whether this changes your attitude or not, the fact is that some (most?) guys are quite able to go out and shag half-a-dozen women, and then come back to their wives with their love for her utterly undamaged - and possibly enhanced. We're programmed that way.
And please don't think that it's some failing on *your* part. In many ways this has nothing to do with you.
The women that men love are not *possessions*, like a car or a boat, where if you have the best one around you don't need another. It's more like food - where the steak is the best in the world, but you like the look of the little oysters, too.
CD
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April 18th, 2007 at 3:15 am
tell him you want to cheat to.
tell him some one put you up to it.
and it was always something you wanted to try.watch for his reaction.
couple of days later tell him you have gone through with it,watch for his reaction,tell him you might want to do it again,and how does it feel knowing someone else was doing to you what only he has the right to.kill him,make him feel your pain.
don't actually do it though,your not as low as he is.
when he cant feel any worse,hold him down and give it to him like no one Else can,and during this,loOK into his eyes and tell him that if he ever does that again…….you fill in the blanks ok.
good luck.
PS cut down on the ice cream.food is not love.
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April 18th, 2007 at 3:21 am
undelivered emotions need outlets.
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April 18th, 2007 at 3:34 am
IS he an older man? was she a younger girl? Sometimes men feel like they need a younger girl to make them feel young again. He says this was just a game? I would ask him how many different times has he played this game. You may be surprised. This could be a whole other side of him that he has hidden from you from the start and he could be getting an ego about doing it now because he has gotten away with it before. I would give him a reality check. Even if you don't divorce him I would seperate from him and let him think about how it would feel to lose you. This could open his eyes and make him grab on to what he has before it's too late. Good luck. My wife cheated on me and I never truly forgave her for it. I also never trusted her again. This became a serioous problem for us down the road. He has to understand that he messed up real bad and he is going to have to give in to your every demand and answer every question you want to ask him truthfully if he really cares about you caring for him.
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April 18th, 2007 at 3:39 am
By nature men, and this is a general statement, are not monogamous creatures. Genetically men are set up to spread their seed. That being said. I would have to say that you and him need to sit down and find the root cause of his cheating. I would hope that it truly wasn't a game. I that is the truth then I'd say it probably would happen again if he actually takes it so lightly.
PS. as for you thoughts on sex life, etc., it possibly could something to do with variety. And if that's the case a discussion could help. Maybe there is something in your physical life the he wants and thinks you're not willing to accept. If talking doesn't do it counseling, and maybe even sex counseling.
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April 18th, 2007 at 3:45 am
I don't care what anyone says….I think men and women…now a day have changed.
Nothing is meaningful to them anymore. I was married 20 years…and we were happy.
We went everywhere together. He changed a 180 to what he was the last 1 years of our marriage.
I believe the devil is after our men…and he is getting them.
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April 18th, 2007 at 3:49 am
What kind? A HUMAN one, I expect.
Whether this changes your attitude or not, the fact is that some (most?) guys are quite able to go out and shag half-a-dozen women, and then come back to their wives with their love for her utterly undamaged - and possibly enhanced. We're programmed that way.
And please don't think that it's some failing on *your* part. In many ways this has nothing to do with you.
The women that men love are not *possessions*, like a car or a boat, where if you have the best one around you don't need another. It's more like food - where the steak is the best in the world, but you like the look of the little oysters, too.
CD
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April 18th, 2007 at 4:01 am
Well, ask him if HE was happy and the sex was great. I bet you two have differing opinions on what is 'great'. He devalued your relationship for a reason. Sometimes a person doesn't count the cost of their actions but usually they are fed up and just want a need met.
Read "His needs, her needs" it might shed some light. At least it may help you understand so that you can close the chapter on this guy.
If you don't meet each others needs, the relationship won't work.
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April 18th, 2007 at 4:32 am
The kind of man that would do this is someone who has no respect or care for you. Kick him to the curb, he'll do it to you again. Guaranteed!
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April 18th, 2007 at 4:35 am
I have never heard of a man cheating and saying it was just a game. Tell him you want to play a game a reverse the situation. All jokes aside, i could and would not ever trust him again, and he is not a real man if he is going to take his marriage vows so lightly. I can't believe people cheat and say it is because they weren't getting their needs filled, please give me a break. Good luck to you
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April 18th, 2007 at 4:43 am
.The kind of husband that has no conscience and is worthless. Ditch the guy and find some one who can be mature and honest with himself and all others Games are for children Marriage is a commitment to be true to ones partner Find a good divorce lawyer and forget this louse
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April 18th, 2007 at 5:51 am
A MANDAVOSHKA, BLIAD, A GOVNO, A SOOKA. KUSHKAYOB! HE IS ALL OF THIS AND MORE. A SELF - DEFECATING BASTARD. GOAT WHORE. MOVE ON!
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April 18th, 2007 at 7:43 am
somehow I highly doubt there were no warning signs. they might not have been the ones you were expecting but they were probably there.
I also doubt the just a game line. There was something he was getting from her that he was not from you. If you want to continue your marriage I'd find out what it is and how to offer it to him. On the same token cheating is unacceptable and if he wants to keep the marriage he needs to prove it to you.
I am old fashioned so even cheating I don't think is grounds for a divorce but it might be grounds for a frying pan to his head or for the "till death" part to come true, him taking up semi-permanent residence on the couch at night is probably justified as well.
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